Depression The What And Whys

Depression man sitting under tree — Don’t Live With Depression

Do you struggle to get out of bed in the morning from being depressed? Or have you lost the zeal for life because of depression? If you answered yes to those questions it’s a good thing your here. Life is already difficult in itself and when your depressed on top of it all it can make the simplest of tasks a nightmare. Depression can be a very powerful force that can change who we are and who we want to be. It not only can hurt mentally but it can affect you physically as well. And life is to short to be depressed all the time! Trust me I know! Believe it or not I was depressed for years and it got so bad I started to think what’s the point of living if this is what life is going to be like. I stopped caring about myself and the things I loved. At the end of this post I’ll share what caused my depression and how I’m managing to get my life back day by day. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you it’s not easy but it can be done and if I can do it I know for a fact you can too!

Suffering from depression can also start affecting your social life and worst of all make you feel alone. But did you know that over 350 million people are living with depression everyday. A lot of times is goes untreated for the reasons of being scared to ask for help or they don’t realize they have depression. Also up to 30 percent of patients with major depressive disorder will experience what’s called Treatment-Resistant Depression (TRD)

Signs of Depression

Mood Swings
Change In Eating
Changes in Sleeping
Loss Of Energy
Changes in Hygiene
Loss Of Interests
Social Distancing Themselves From Friends and Family
Loss Of Motivation
Negative Talk Either About Themselves and Life.

I know some of you maybe be thinking there’s not going to be a light at the end of my depression tunnel and having depression makes it very hard to see the positive in things. But you know what!? Depression is an illness that can be cured and once you take that first step to wanting your life back things start to get easier. So ask yourself are you willing to take that first step to living a depression free life? If so let’s begin!

The 7 Traps Of Depression

Feeling stuck or trapped by depression is common in everyone. Learn what to watch for so you know what to do when your faced with these subjects that lead to depression. — Don’t let depression make you feel trapped anymore

For most people, the reason for their depression is clear.
For many others, it’s as clear as night and
understandably so because in most cases of depression, no single factor or reason accounts for the condition. Most
times, it’s a combination of several factors, such as events, genetics, present situation, and more. If you’re suffering from depression, know that it isn’t necessarily an indictment against you. It’s not a character flaw on your part; this medical condition can hit anybody regardless of character, gender, race or level of intelligence. There may not be a clear reason for suffering with depression, although it is very helpful to be aware of the reason or reasons for feeling depressed.
They say that knowing is half the battle and in this case, knowing the reason or reasons for your depressed will allow you to better explain to your medical professional and to manage it so that you can live a normal life. Let’s take a look at 7 of the most common reasons for being trapped by depression.

Genetics–

Genetics and depression can run in your family and if you see a pattern evolving speak to someone that can help you overcome your depression. — Does depression run in your family?

In some cases it’s no surprise to find yourself suffering from depression just like your parents and close relatives.
The condition can also be genetic, meaning it can run in the family and be passed on to you through the family DNA.
While the genetic link to depression isn’t considered as major as the other ones in this list , it is believed that children, siblings, and even parents of those who have extreme depression have a much higher risk for depression compared to the general
population. It is highly possible that the special connections among several genes is the reason why depression seems
to run in certain families.

Health Conditions–

Health Conditions can cause depression and if you feel there's a problem speak to a health professional — Are your health conditions causing your depression?

Mental health conditions like depression can be related to or even be caused or aggravated by chronic or long-term
medical conditions such as when you feel extremely sad while having other health conditions and being depressed while your general health is worsening, 1 example is your blood pressure keeps increasing. Many people who suffer from chronic and long-term conditions such as stroke, cardiovascular diseases, diabetes, and cancer can become clinically depressed because of the following reasons:

• Dealing with chronic diseases can be extremely stressful, can cause depression if not manage well. • Once depression starts to hit, personal hygiene becomes more of a challenge, which can either aggravate existing health conditions or it can create new ones.
• The aggravated or newly created health condition adds to the feeling of depression, and can start a chain reaction that becomes a downward sickness-depression spiral.

Biology–

Biology of a human and depression — How depression affects our minds

Scientists discovered that the brains – yes, brains of people who don’t suffer from depression are different from the ones who do.
Did you know the hippocampus, is the tiny part of the brain that’s crucial for storing memories, of people who have histories of depression appear to be generally smaller in size compared to those who never had problems with depression. One key characteristic of a smaller hippocampus is that it has less serotonin receptors
compared to regular or larger sized ones. Serotonin, in simple terms, is a kind of neurotransmitter that makes it possible for our brains’ various regions to communicate
with each other kinda like connecting circuits. And guess what? These brain regions that make use of serotonin are involved with processing a person’s emotions also. It’s still a question to scientists as to why the hippocampus of those who suffer from depression are smaller compared to those who don’t. But some scientists noted that cortisol – the stress hormone – seems to be a factor in
this, while depressed people produce more of the stuff compared to those who aren’t depressed. The most reasonable hypothesis is that cortisol may have a toxic effect
of shrinking or stunting the growth of the hippocampus, which eventually leads to depression. With a limited number of serotonin receptors that appear to be
a biological factor in the development of depression in most people, it can’t be singled out as the only one. Because depression is a complex mental condition, and has more than just one contributory factor in it’s development.

Substance Abuse–

Substance abuse and depression go hand in hand — Substance Abuse Is Depressions Best Friend

Substance abuse and depression can kinda go hand and hand First, they are two potentially morbid conditions that co-exist in an extremely high number of
people. Secondly, they both can start from a lot of different reasons. Lastly, you can say that substance abuse and depression work off each other, just like a love hate relationship. But for discussion purposes we’ll look at it more as to why it can cause or make depression worse. So what’s the cause? Most of the abused substances have a huge impact on the brain, and one way it does that is by causing depression in the person that is worried about. One example is marijuana. While it’s a very good alternative for medical use, it can be harmful when abused, just like any prescription medicine. Excessive marijuana use can lead to a substantial slow down in the brain’s ability to work properly , and can greatly reduce one’s judgement abilities, and down the road lead to depression in some people. It’s the same with alcohol. Another substance that’s abused is cocaine which can also lead to depression. It gives people an extremely quick high before they are crashing back down, often into a state of depression, which makes abusers crave more of the drug, which then can lead to a downward spiral of constantly abusing the drug. Coming down and having depression can make the individual desire for more of the abused drug, which causes more post-high depression and a higher consumption – a horrible road to addiction and self destruction. Smoking may also be linked with depression in many smokers. People who are at risk for depression are more likely to start smoking. And while we’re on the subject of smoking nicotine can also affect your brain’s neurotransmitter activity. In particular, nicotine can raise the production of serotonin and dopamine, both of which are associated with feelings of pleasure. Having those pleasurable
feelings are addictive by nature, your brain will associate those feelings with smoking, hence making cigarettes an addictive
substance. Now how can this lead to depression? When you’re already addicted to smoking, not having your smokes will deprive you of the pleasurable sensations of serotonin and dopamine. So when a smoker hasn’t had one in awhile or is quitting cold turkey it can put the individual at high risk for depression.

Food Nutrition

Junk food isn't good if your already suffering from depression. — Junk Food Can Actually aid in depression

I believe in the saying that we are what we eat. So if we eat
depressed, we become depressed.

Now let’s clear things up. What I mean is if we eat healthy, we’ll feel a lot better, e.g., happy and upbeat, and if we eat fast food all the time. we’ll feel poorly or depressed. That’s why eating an unhealthy diet may increase your risks for depression, depending on how unhealthy and unbalanced your diet is. Depending on diets that are highly deficient may cause depression over the long run:

• Omega-3 Fatty Acids, are minerals that can help your brain improve it’s function and moods.
The bad news is , our body can’t produce them so you’ll have to get to a store that carries supplements and healthier food like a GNC
• Vitamin D, are now scientifically connected to mental health including
depression. This is more pronounced during the winter and fall months because you hardly get any sun, and the best way to get vitamin D is when summer and spring
are here due to increased sunlight,
• Magnesium is a mineral that up to 50% of the United State population are deficient in because of the standard diet that’s high in alcohol, sugar, salt, and
coffee, and more. It’s also probably a generally stressful lifestyle that many Americans live. When you get enough magnesium all the time,
you’re getting the benefits of nature’s most relaxing mineral ever. And when you’re calm, you feel really good and depression’s ability to establish and your life becomes significantly weak. But
if you’re deficient, the opposite becomes true.

• Folate plays a special role in stopping depression and chronic deficiency can increase your risks for depression. It’s been studied that antidepressants’ ability is reduced in people who lack folate in their diet.
• Amino Acids aren’t just for building muscles they are for ensuring optimum brain function and health.
The symptoms of chronic deficiency in amino acids include depression, to focus, and a sluggish feeling.
• The lack of Iron deficiency increases your risks for becoming anemic, the signs of which are very similar to
depression, which include brain fog, irritability, and fatigue. If you already have depression and experiencing these symptoms may worsen your
condition merely by mistaking the symptoms for a worsening depression.

Medicines–

Prescriptions can cause more damage then actual helping — Some prescription medications can cause more harm than help.

If you or someone you know thinks that a certain medicine could be causing depression talk to a doctor to see if there’s options to a different medicine. There is alot prescription medications that
have the side effect that causes feelings of discouragement,
despair, and sadness. And what a coincidence – these feelings are those that are most associated with depression!
The prescriptions that appear to cause depression seem to change the brain’s chemicals in ways that increase
More of a chance of developing clinical depression. If your prescriptions are causing more harm as a side affect, you might want to see if there are better alternatives so your depression doesn’t get any worse. If you don’t seek a doctors advise your more likely to cause more problems.
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Grief–

Grieving over a lost loved one — Losing a loved one is always hard, but remember that their in a better place and we’ll all be reunited down the road.

It’s normal to grieve over the loss of someone or something that’s very precious or important to you. Most
people who go through the grieving process when experiencing a loss, even if it’s only a
small loss– it’s normal. Trust me I lost my best friend and brother within a few years of each other. There would be times I’d be walking through Wal-Mart or the grocery store and I wouldn’t be able to fight back the tears. And as much as I hate saying this time does help. Just knowing it’s ok to be sad and everyone grieve’s at their own pace, but if the grieving process extends to the point where it can start being harmful and to the way you live your life. If you start feeling worthless, helpless, and hopeless. If that’s the case, then you’ll want to talk to a medical professional so you can figure out something that will work for you.

In simple terms, grief is a natural reaction or response to losing something or someone you hold dear. During the grieving process, you’re able to mourn such losses move on
to eventual healing . Denying the grief you
feel is counterproductive and will keep you from truly moving on. On the other hand, you can make the process of grieving and healing simply by acknowledging the
the situation that you feel as a result of the loss. We all grieve differently and there’s no set timeline to grieving either. But if you notice someone or you grieving for an extremely long period of time, you might want to speak to a therapist so you can start the healing process . The longer you wait to get help can make it that much more difficult to heal.

My Dark Road To The Light

I fought severe depression for almost 7 years from multiple reasons. It was one thing after another and all I could think is what the hell did i do to deserve this!? I was in an accident in 2010 went back to work for 5 years and then shit just went downhill fast. My injuries started getting worse and that made me a liability in my profession. I took bad advice from lawyers and doctors that I thought had my best intentions at heart and was WAY over prescribed and promised it would help me feel normal again( it just made things worse) and when I wanted off of all that shit doctor cut me off and the next doctor accused me of being a junky because I apparently can prescribe myself any medication I want and didn’t have to go to school for my medical degree fuckin idiot but cut me off after I proved he has more shit coming out his mouth than his own asshole. Had half-assed lawyers that promised the world and it’s been 7 years and I’m still waiting for disability so thanks assholes!!. When I lost my job I was going through a bad break up after being together for 12 years and she would rub it in my face how much better she was doing. I lost everything I worked my ass off for to keep a roof over my head. I can’t skateboard anymore and that was my thing, my outlet, my passion. Ya know being at rock bottom you get to see people’s true intentions like who your real friends are and the family members that do and don’t give a shit about you. It totally opened my eye’s to see it doesn’t matter if their “friends” or “family” when the tables turn they won’t be there for you. Also having ADHD and other mental stuff from having my head put through a windshield made things 10 times worse. And to add icing to the cake my best friend and my younger brother passed away. It was like a domino effect that I felt would never stop!! I got to the point if it wasn’t going to stop I was going to make it stop by saying fuck it and taking myself out of the equation. But for some reason god or whoever is above gave me 5 lives so far so I must have some purpose…… I hope lol And yeah I still have bad days because depression is like a stage 9 clinger that just hangs around and lingers like an undercover dingleberry that’s been hanging around for 3 days Lol And as much as ive heard this saying before “when 1 door closes another 1 opens” it was definitely hard to see those other doors that opened because of depression. It’s a vicious cycle and having ADHD didn’t help noticing these other doors either. But I found them and ever since my life is finally going in a positive direction. All I wanted was ME back before my world crumbled and went to shit. Depression just made my life stagnant and feeling like I didn’t have a purpose here. After awhile I got sick of existing and not living and life without direction isn’t a life. I’ll be honest it fuckin sucks starting over at 40 and it’s fuckin scary. I would’ve started sooner if I was able to remember most of my 30s but I can’t from all the meds I was on. Now that I’m passed all that shit I’ve met someone new and things have been going good. And I was always miss the thrill of skateboarding that will never die but instead I foster animals. The feeling of seeing the change in a dog or cat that’s never been loved to being loved all the time is truly amazing and on top of it in saving lives and it feels just as good as a long fakie backside 5-0 or a huge heelflip down a 8 stair. And last but not least fuck making someone else rich and if they won’t hire me cool, I started my own business it’s called Brake Check 716 and if your in the buffalo, NY area and need brake repair done lmk-https://brakecheck716car.wordpress.com. I’d like to give a thanks to all the people that turned their back on me, treated me like shit and thought I did this to myself intentionally because all you were was motivation to get back up and make the best out of my business and show all of you’s that your just as important as a morning shit.

If your fighting depression i hope this helps in understanding and knowing a little more about what’s going on. I also would like to say thank you to all of the people that are supportive of this blog and my stories. I hope by me sharing can help others in anyway it can. Please like,share and follow

I Couldn’t Serve My Country Because I Wasn’t Smart Enough.

Drill sergeant yelling you can't serve your country if your not smart. — No Double D’s Here (Double D’s is a reference to a military comedy movie can you guess which movie?)

Did it ever cross your mind that you wouldn’t be able to serve your country because you weren’t smart enough? Well if it didn’t don’t worry!? It never crossed my mind neither………until it happened. Growing up as a military brat or kid (whatever you want to call it) you tend to get used to living on post or base and moving every 3 to 4 years. I mean I can’t speak for all but in my case I did. I used to wonder all the time how it was to live like a civilian and for some reason I couldn’t picture it. I didn’t think living like a civilian was a shitty way to live or anything. I just wondered what it was like living in one spot all your life and in a way I was kinda jealous you could say. I wish I never had to say goodbye to all the friends I made. If I had to say one thing shitty about being a military kid that would be my number one thing. Other than that I absolutely loved it! The places I’ve seen the things I’ve done the people I’ve met I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I can honestly say that the first 20 years of my life was the best years of my life. When we lived in Ft.Richardson, Alaska our backyard was basically mountains. Where we lived in the summer time we would have only 1 hour of darkness around 12 a.m and the rest of the day was bright and sunny and vise versa for winter time. While living there I took up snowboarding and I remember this one night I was snowboarding at this place called Alpenglow/Arctic Valley and they had these crazy little circle disc lifts that you had to get on just right that took you to the top of the mountain. I don’t know why this one night I stopped to really take in the sight but I’m glad I did. I’m standing at the top of this mountain and they had this shitty little orange fence that separated the top of the mountain and when you looked back behind the fence it was pure black and it dropped off, you couldn’t see a damn thing but when you turned around on the side your suppose to be on all you see is Anchorage the whole city all the way to the bay of Alaska. I stood there for like 5-10 minutes just taking in the lights and the view it’s something I will never forget and I’m so glad I took the time to stop and enjoy it.

Arctic Valley / Alpenglow — This view is from Arctic Valley it’s connected to Aplenglow. But that’s as close of a view I can find to show you how amazing it is. Picture it at night with all the lights and ending at the water.

Having ADHD it’s hard to stop sometimes and realize this is something that most people will never see and how thankful I was actually to get that chance. I get choked up alot when I think about living there because those 3 and a 1\2 years seemed like 10 years and out of the first 20 years of my life they were the most memorable. I just wish we had cell phones back then because id have a shit ton more pictures and videos. In the summer time we would go to Seward and go camping and you wouldn’t think this shitty little fishing town had a skatepark but it did! It sat on the edge of the fjord where all the big fishing and cruise liners would park while surrounded by mountains. It wasn’t a huge skatepark but it was definitely one of the best I’ve ever been to.

This is the best picture I can find to show the scenery for Seward Skatepark.( And yes there was more to it than 2 ramps, a ledge and a tiny rail) lol

These are the only pictures I have from living in Alaska (Below) I wish I had more picture’s, I’m scared as I get older I’ll lose these memories. I would give anything to do it all again!!

Me skating in Alaska — 5 stair on post by my house (me)

Sorry I got caught in a ride down memory lane, I just miss it that much. If you ever get a chance to visit or live there DO NOT pass it up!! Being able to do things like that is another reason why I gave joining a good thought. After living there we ended up moving to Ft. Leanordwood, MO and it was a change but like I said you tend to get used to the moving. When I turned 17 I didn’t know what to do with my life. I know I wanted to get sponsored in skateboarding and snowboarding but living in MO there wasn’t a close place to snowboard at all and we lived honestly in the middle of nowhere. If it wasn’t for Ft. Leanordwood the 2 towns outside of post would be just that 2 little shit towns with an interstate running through it. They used to say don’t blink or you’ll miss it all lol. But anyways I knew i wasn’t going to college, hell I had a hard time passing High School. And the High School I went to they didn’t help people with ADHD/ADD very well. All they did was stick you in LD classes and that’s what they called helping. I remember asking the math teacher in 11th grade if I could move up to algebra because I was in pre-algebra since 7th grade her exact words were “your doing fine why ruin it” I replied ” isn’t that the point of graduating grades is to move onto things more challenging”? (Math Teacher) “mmm nope we’ll let you know when your ready” after that I gave her a look of are you fuckin serious and walked away. So as you can see there was no way I could become president now from my dream shattering teachers. And to be honest I was thinking about joining the army anyways. Both of my grandpa’s were military, my dad did 32 Years in the army so I said fuck it let’s see what happens. Now before you join any branch of the military you have to pass the ABSVAB test. In all reality it’s basically a placement test. So the day came when they were holding the ABSVAB test and my mom drove me to the building. We pull up she tells me “good luck” I say “thanks” and I can’t really remember how long I took taking the test but I do know i tried my best. So now the test is over and I’m sitting in the car waiting for my mom and she gets in and doesn’t say anything. We start driving and she looks at me and said the recruiter asked if you were mentally retarded and I’m looking at my mom with a look like what do I say to that!? A few minutes go by and we both bust out laughing and I know it’s not funny because that’s a shitty thing to ask but apparently i did the worst he’s ever seen. From having ADHD I’ve never been good at taking test and back then the military didn’t help or have an aid for people with ADHD to join the military.

Now 4 years down the road and I’m living in buffalo, NY. And to be honest I can’t remember who it was but I met someone that was doing reserves. After talking to him about it he gave me his recruiters business card. A few days pass and im thinking of trying to join again, and show those mofo’s im not mentally retarded . So I give the recruiter a call and we meet up and talk a little about what I wanted to do In the military and of course I didn’t know. Now don’t quote me because like I said this was awhile ago. I told him my situation about not having a G.E.D or High School diploma ( that’s a whole different crazy story if anyone wants to hear it just ask other than that lets move on) and that I have ADHD and a IEP. I’m pretty sure he said something along the lines like while I’m in basic training I can take care of my G.E.D. , it was something like that. After hearing that it made joining a little more worth doing, kill 2 birds with one stone right !?let’s do this! So the test day come and the recruiter picks me up and on the the whole ride there I’m thinking “you got this!” , ” show these fuckers your not mentally retarded!”. We get there and I’m feeling good, I got my hopes up and he recruiter said “good luck” I replied thank you” and head in for the test. After a bit I hand in my test and go wait outside for the recruiter and after about 15-20 minutes he comes out and we hop in the car. As soon as we start driving I asked “how’d I do”? “I passed with flying numbers didn’t i”? and he looks at me with a blank stare and says “you didn’t pass”, I replied ” are you fuckin serious?” He says “yes, you got a 30 did you try?”, I said “hell yea I tried!” and under my breathe I’m like “what the fuck!?” The rest of the ride was quiet. When we pulled up to my house he tells me “he’ll call when there’s another test”, I replied “ok sounds good thank you” and got out of the car. I never heard from him again and after that I never tried joining. I sometimes wonder what my life would’ve been like if I had passed. Would I have been happier in the army, maybe I’d have a more of a normal life I don’t know…… I don’t know. Maybe one day the military will have help for people that don’t do well on paper. I learn by jumping in and doing things not by testing. Just because I suck on written tests doesn’t mean I’m stupid and honestly in a way it’s a form of discrimination if you think about it. Apparently because I can’t take a test and pass means that I can’t shoot a gun and distinguish between friendlies and enemies. Maybe one day the military will have something to help people with ADHD be able to serve their country instead of turning them away. I guess now I look at it in a way I’m glad when we were kids we didn’t have cell phone’s, tablets and all that other shit because kids now an days are pissing away there childhood with a screen in their faces. I got to actually enjoy the places we moved and didn’t take it for granted especially if I’m not able to move around in the military myself. And if that sounds like you the one with the screens in your face all the time and your reading this put the phones away, put the tablet down and go outside!! Go kick a tree or go to a random street sign and say “FUCK YOU STREET SIGN!” Do anything besides the phones and tablets, you don’t want to get older and regret not living while you have the chance!

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10 POSITIVE CHARACTERISTICS THAT ARE USUALLY OVER LOOKED IN SOMEONE WITH ADD/ADHD

Through the years while ADD/ADHD is becoming increasingly common it seems it’s taking on a negative light. When you hear someone talking about it, people tend to lean towards the thinking of “what’s wrong with them?” because how children or adults act isn’t in the”normal”. You’ll notice in some of my writing when I talk about mental health, I usually will say mental health stuff instead of “issues” or “problems” because those two words seem negative. And today I’m going to try and shed a positive light on ADD/ADHD. I feel we are all human and everyone has stuff going on in their life good and bad. Having ADD/ADHD doesn’t mean we’re stupid, lazy or any other negative label. It just means we learn, do things and maybe act different, that’s it! So on that note let’s get started

Empathy– People with ADD/ADHD have an incredible way of being able to connect with other people. But it goes further than that. We also have the ability to identify with others, and to see a lot of diverse point of views.

Ingenuity– A lot of people with ADD/ADHD are highly ingenious. Painters, designers, sculptors, film makers, writers, musicians, and comedians – the creative aptitudes are plentiful. The recent blog I did about historic figures that had ADD/ADHD shows how resilient we can be.

Enthusiasm– If provided an attention grabbing task to work on then watch out! When we like to achieve something, and we have all the tools to do so, there is no stopping us.

Problem Solving Capability– We can flourish on deciphering puzzles and problems. If given a problem that’s up our alley to crack, we will not be able to leave it until we have conquered it. Significant historical inventors such as Thomas Edison and Thomas Jefferson are assumed to have had ADD

Hyper-Focus-The capacity to hyper-focus is something that we can make use of to our benefit. When kept under control and aimed towards what were doing, like achieving goals and something we’re really passionate about, it can be an unbelievable positive feature that allows us to get things done, and done well.

Sense of Humor/Flair for Comedy– Nearly all of us love to laugh, and a lot of us have an ability to make others laugh as well. Well known comedians such as Whoopi Goldberg and Robin Williams for example are believed to have ADD/ADHD.

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Spirit-There is no doubt that despite the fact that there are many great traits that come with having ADD/ADHD, there are also challenges. But we have a hard to believe capability to spring back from those challenges, and especially if we want to prove naysayers wrong.

Intuitiveness-We have a quick sense of perception. We can walk into a room and read the vibes, or feelings. Sense quickly if something isn’t right. No matter what the explanation is, it is a very valuable gift.

Idea Generating-We are brilliant proposal makers. We’re always thinking even if it doesn’t look like it, those gears don’t stop moving. We can be very witty at times. We are a real benefit in a brainstorming department.

Loyal-We are very loyal to people that treat us right. We don’t back stab the people we like. If you’ve made a friend in someone with ADD/ADHD you’ve got a friend for life. We may be a little late but you can always count on us to be there in a time of need.

If anyone has anymore they would like to share please comment below. In a world so negative it’s difficult to stay positive, but if we keep lifting each other up despite our differences the possibilities can be endless. Granted ADD/ADHD for the most part can make living life more stressful why add to it? There’s absolutely no need to especially in a world that’s already going to shit in a hand basket! So next time if you see someone struggling with something that they can’t control ask them if they need help or if it’s something they gotta do on their own tell them keep up the fight, kick that problems ass or just even keep your head up. It’s those few words that can keep someone from going down a dark path and help them see it through!

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Famous people from history diagnosed with adhd

Abraham Lincoln and ADHD — Historic people with ADHD

Hello to all you fine ladies and gents! Today I hope all of you have your permission slips as we’re going to go on a field trip who’s ready? . LET’S GO! Today’s field trip were going on a ride back in time to take a look at some famous people from a lot of many moons ago that also were diagnosed with ADHD. Some of them you may already know about and some you probably never thought would have ADHD or you may not have known about any of them and that’s why we’re all here on this trip. And by the way if you forgot to pack a lunch there’s vending machines when we get there. Let’s begin! Now way back and I mean way back back back back back back in 1798 a Scottish doctor named Sir Alexander Crichton started noticing children at young ages being easily distracted and having a harder time focusing more than the other children. The symptoms that the children were showing they called hyperkinetic reaction of childhood . Now let’s fast forward all the way to the year 1902. Sir George Frederic talked about the mental conditions otherwise in healthy children of normal intelligence. He noticed that these children were more impulsive, having a hard time paying attention and lacking self control. He noticed from a class of 20 kids that boys showed the symptoms more than girls; basically stating boys are more likely to have ADHD than girls and its still the same as today. It wasn’t till around 1960’s they started calling it Attention Deficit Disorder whether they were hyper or not. The list below of these historic or famous figures I compiled showed the same symptoms as children today with ADD or ADHD.

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Historic figures that had ADHD and other mental health issues — Vincent Van Gogh

Vincent Van Gogh painter wrote about his inability to control and focus on which he called his “abstractions”. His biographies from his teen years to his 20s showed restlessness and the impulse to work could be capable with having ADHD/ADD

Thomas Edison inventer was actually pulled out of school by his mother after 12 weeks attending a school in Michigan before he was kicked out. His teacher deemed him difficult do to hyperactivity and being prone to distraction. His mother being a teacher homeschooled him and at age 11 showed a lot of thirst for knowledge and was reading a wide range of books. Later it was suggested that his hyperactivity and being easily distracted was caused by ADHD.

Ansel Adams a famous photographer at an early age was also very hyperactive and restlessness so much he was removed from several private schools by the age 12. For the next 2 years he was privately tutored by his aunt Mary and his father. He eventually finished his normal schooling at a private school and later on in life displayed his diploma in his guest bathroom. I suppose it doesn’t matter where he hung his diploma, he was at least proud enough to hang it on a wall. Lol

Historic figures with adhd and other mental health issues — Albert Einstein

Albert Einstein, physicist at age 12 Einstein learned algebra and Euclidean geometry in just 1 summer. He also taught himself calculus. At 13 he got more devoted to learning philosophy and music. And at 14 years old he said he mastered integral and different calculus and was reaching levels in math that surpassed his peers. The reason they believe Albert Einstein had ADHD was he was very forgetful and disorganized as much as he was intelligent.

F. Scott Fitzgerald and ADHD — F. Scott Fitzgerald

F. Scott Fitzgerald, novelist had a learning disability thought to be from dyslexia. There’s been reports at the age 12 he was kicked out school for not being a good speller, losing focus and not completing his assignments. As you can see none of that stopped him from writing the popular book The Great Gatsby.

Abraham Lincoln, President Some people say Abraham Lincoln was diagnosed with ADHD. In my research I found he did suffer from mental health issues like clinical depression and was also taking blue mass pills. Lincoln suffered a lot of traumatic events also. When he was 9 he was kicked in the head by a horse and was unconscious for several hours, his thumb was severed by an axe, he also got frostbite on his feet, he was clubbed in the head during a robbery and he was occasionally struck by his wife multiple times. In my opinion if anyone had that kind of head trauma of course they would show symptoms that could possibly be linked with ADHD.

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What I like most about this post is that these historical figures had adhd and they still made it to the top. I know ADHD affects people differently in life and can be harder from one person to the next. What it all boils down to is finding the path that works for you to be successful in life. Trust me I wish it was easier said than done but it’s not. And that’s another reason why I did this blog post. To show you it’s possible to be or do whatever you want without having ADHD holding you back.

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The Stranger I See Now

Man looking in the mirror unable to recognize himself in his reflection — A stranger in the reflection.

I see this person all the time and when I do I avoid him. He used to be someone I could look up to, he knew what he wanted and went for it. But now I’m not sure what to think of him anymore. Everyday another piece of who he was falls away like a thought you forgot from yesterday. I miss that person I knew before. As days go on he looks more like a person I’ve never seen before a stranger. How did it get so bad when he had the world in the palm of his hand. He used to be funny and always a joy to have around. Looking at him now its just a 24/7 frown like his soul checked out and left town. He used to walk around with his head held high and so proud, now you wouldn’t recognize him as he walks around looking down at the ground. I wish I’d wake up from this nightmare cuz I hate who I see just another piece of shit in the mirror looking back at me. I ask myself all the time Is this struggle worth the fight or should I say fuck it all and just end it tonight.

6 Tips To Calm The ADHD Brain

Do You Wish You Could Just Stop Thinking? Just for 5 minutes even? Today I’m going to share with you some ways to cool down that speed racer brain we have that comes with having ADHD. Some of you may lose sleep, lose focus at the task at hand, or even forget something that was important. ADHD has many dirty tricks up her sleeve that can make your day/night harder. There’s been times when I’ve had so many thoughts running through my head that when someone asked me what I was thinking about I couldn’t tell them exactly what it was. And that right there could set off a bad chain reaction for example you overwhelm yourself with thoughts and your anxiety starts going crazy. Or something bad happens and your constantly thinking of a way to fix it. Then you start feeling depressed because no matter how hard you think your still in the same shitty spot. When you should be taking small steps like telling yourself “today I’m going to make you my bitch” or talking to a friend or family instead of keeping it bottled up. If that sounds like you!? I’m glad you joined us here today. These tips will help you slow down and focus on 1 thing at a time. I use these all the time to help me and I hope they do the same for you!

1.Give Work A Break

What I mean by that is leave your work for work time. Don’t take work home with you unless it comes down to losing your job. Take your 15 minute break or 30 minute lunch whatever it may be to clear your mind. Or if something at work is driving you crazy walk away for 5 minutes and cool down. I’ve been stuck on something at work and instead of getting pissed off and even more frustrated I walked away for how ever long I needed and when I came back with a cool head it was smooth sailing.

2. Make a list of things you enjoy and stick to it.

Think of a hobby that made you happy and haven’t done in a long time. Whether it’s a walk around the block, taking a bike ride whatever it is and make time for it. Doing something that used to make you feel good will bring back that happiness that came with it.

3. Meditation

Here are a few different ways to meditate. Find one that works for you and go to a special spot you can be alone. I like going to this creek by my house and listen to nature and just let my mind get lost in all the sounds.

1.Mindful meditation

2. Breathing awareness meditation

3. Yoga

4. Zen meditation

5.Transcendental meditation

4. Turn off electronics

Turning off all those distractions a few hours before bed can help free your mind. Having adhd/add we all know about distractions

and how it can keeps our minds from shutting down when we need it the most. A good nights rest sets our mood the next day.

5. Keep a journal or diary

Writing down how your day went is a good way to get release built up stress. It requires you to stop and think of what you want to write and then act on it. It can release stress, help you obtain clearness and make a habit of writing your feelings down every day.

6. Let loose with friends

Hanging out with friends is always a good way to free your mind of stress. Talking to friends about what’s going on can help you with a situation you might be having or just letting loose and having fun can free your mind from being overwhelmed of thoughts.

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I hope these tips can help your ADHD/ADD brain to slow down. When our brains are going crazy with thoughts we miss out on the good things in life. And I know this may sound easier said than done, but once you make that first initial step things will fall into place. Start out with small steps to find what ways help you the most and go from there.

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Reasons To Help Your Kid Understand ADHD

Reasons to help your kid understand ADHD

Helping Your Kid(s) Understand their ADHD or Mental Health

Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog. I hope you’re enjoying my posts as much as I like writing them. The reason I’m writing about parents helping their kid(s) with their ADHD is because I wish someone would’ve helped me understand more about it when I was diagnosed. And to be honest, nobody told me or said anything about it until I was 17 yrs old! All I knew is that I have a learning disability and that’s it. I made so many impulsive mistakes in my life it’s not even funny. I look back at all the mistakes I made and I’m suprised I got this far. I never took a second to think about the consequences before jumping into a bad decision head first. If I had thought about the outcome on all the shit I’ve done, my life would probably be a lot better than it is now. If only I could turn back the hands of time I would in a heartbeat! The biggest mistake that hurts the most is that I pissed away my dreams of being sponsored in skateboarding and I don’t think I’ll ever forgive myself for that. I also never graduated high school and the fucked up thing is I sat in the bleachers watching the class of 2001 (the class I should’ve been in) students gradute because my girlfriend at the time was graduating also. Let me tell you this It was hard holding back the tears watching that and on top of it feeling like a huge idiot. And I’m not blaming anyone or pointing fingers. All I’m trying to say is I wish someone would’ve helped me understand why I do the things I do and to think of the outcome of the choices i make through life. If only I made the right choices I’d have something to show for it like a diploma or a sponsorship for skateboarding and because of those bad choices I made I don’t have fuckin shit to show other than telling someone I fucked up A LOT. Now I live with a shit ton of regret and I beat myself up everytime I think about it or see kids skateboarding. Everyone tells me you can’t live in the past and to move forward. And I know it’s not healthy or good to live in the past but for some reason I can’t get over it that was the only time I was truly happy. So to those parents out there that has a child with ADHD please help them understand the what and why’s of there actions. So when they get older they’ll have more control over those impulsive decisions. Don’t let your kids live in regret when they get older it’s a shitty way to live take my word for it!

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Myth Mouths Using ADHD To Cop Out

Myth mouths using ADHD to cop out.

Hello everyone and glad who’s who and who you can make it once again. I’m pretty sure that you gathered from the title this might piss some people off. Well let this be known, it pisses me off when I hear people say they have ADHD when in all reality, they don’t! And I have a funny feeling there’s a lot more out there that are just bullshitting it for some personal gain whether it’s to get drugs, make money, to be different or “cool” or the one’s that got diagnosed as an adult. And if that was the case, why weren’t you diagnosed as a child? And for whatever reasons, maybe those myth mouths use ADHD as a cop out are just 1 big piece of shit honestly. It’s just as fucked up as someone that walks around in military clothes and says they’re a vet. If this is you and you’re reading, you’re just a sad individual who should get a fuckin pet if you need attention that bad! There’s not 1 thing cool about having ADHD because the people (me) fuckin struggle with a lot of things in life. When you myth mouth shit like this you’re basically throwing it in our face like it’s some fuckin joke when it’s not!! I’ve struggled all my life from ADHD and had to work 10x harder to achieve things I wanted. I remember my 3rd grade teacher asking my mom about things I’d do because of ADHD. If you really want to see what ADHD is like, come hang out with me for a day and you’ll see the difference between real and bullshit! I knew this one kid, we’ll call him Ted, so Ted the fuckin idiot, faked having ADHD so he could get adderall to stay up because he drove a supply truck for a grocery chain at night. Well Ted got so fucked up he ended up crashing not 1 but TWO (2) semi trucks AND his car. He’s 35, lost his wife after 3 months and now lives happily ever after alone in his moms basement and that’s no bullshit. He’s one of those people that have to one up everyone and tells all the myth mouth stories to look interesting. I found an ADHD study conducted on adults and come to find out 1 in 4 people fake or exaggerate symptoms of ADHD. One student that was prescribed ADHD medication was asked why she thought she had ADHD and she said ” because I couldn’t concentrate at home and the med’s helped maintain her A grades. When they did the study, they gave a test and 22% of the students who faked or exaggerated the symptoms actually did worse than the students that actually have ADHD. Here’s the full story Adults Who Claim To Have ADHD? 1 and 4 may be faking it.

So I guess all I’m trying to say is don’t be a myth mouth even if it does or doesn’t have anything to do with ADHD. And if you’re doing it to get adderall/Ritalin, you’re just fucking it up or making it harder for people that actually need it.

WORDS OF WISDOM FROM SOMEONE WITH ADHD Just be yourself who knows what you might find! Nobody likes a myth mouth.

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The Night My Friend Got Me Kicked Out Of A Hospital

“Girls and Boys: the story you are about to. hear is true. Only the names have been changed to protect the jackassed”

One night many passing moons ago on a starry story night. Me and my “cousin” Brand and his friend Pim were hanging out. And let me tell you, the roads were flooded with beer that night if it didn’t rain from the night before. And the roads had many emotions that night playing madden 2005 while listening to music. As the night tanked on, the mood in the beer den became more and more erratic and the ADHD tension was high if Michael Jordon couldn’t jump a foot. The noise from the beer den hit a maximum high when a sweet melody started to play over the radio, I’m sure you know the all lovable foot tapper from the movie “Jackass- If Your Gunna Be Dumb, You Gotta Be Tough right? Well as soon as it started to play I felt this fiery hybrid of emotions take over my body called ADHD and without a blink of an eye I’m on top of this old 40 inch tube tv like David Lee Roth standing on stage looking down and seeing a huge crowd of big breasted honey sickles but to my surprise it was just a wall full of beer cans and bottles as tall as Andrea The Giant standing next to a pebble. Next thing I know I’m flying threw the air like superman saving the day and come crashing down with the sounds of crushing cans and bottles breaking. All of a sudden i felt was like an angel picking me up by my arms and I’m on top of the TV again and without thinking twice I’m flying threw the air once more and as I come to a crashing stop I look up and my “cousin” Brad is now flying threw the air and lands right on top of me. With the noise of laughter and bottles and cans clinking and crackling the song still playing as we’re crawling around like we were stuck in a huge ball pit but instead broken bottles and crushed cans I stand up and Pim is pointing at me leg saying oh shit you need a bandaid. Me And my “cousin” Brad looks down at the same time and I see this huge gash on my leg. The rivers ran red ladies and gentlemen and I looked at Brad and Pim with laughter on my tone I yell “OH SNAP”!! I make a bolt for the upstairs like a hyena chasing tiger and go to Brads wife Chanel who was sitting on the couch I say “hey Chanel umm what’s to do about this unexscapable booboo”? She replied “ You need to go to the hospital” I replied “ you’re probably right!? Do you have any duct tape and napkins”? Chanel rummages threw the junk drawer in the kitchen and hands me scotch tape and paper towels. After patching up my battle wound I retreat to the beer den and Brad and Pim with faces red of laughing I say “Chanel told me I need to go to the hospital”. So all 3 of us stumble out of the beer den and to the outside where I parked my ride.

I Was Born Here

With the hospital only 1 maybe 2 miles through the concrete jungle of Lackawanna and then into South Buffalo we were kind of relieved the journey shouldn’t be to hard. We get about 10 ft down the road as we were taking turns on who’s the best for peddling the bike and who is best for riding the back pegs and handlebars. After many failed but victorious attempts and only 40ft from the house staring at the bike Pim says “ I don’t think we’re gonna make it” then I reply “ I didn’t think it was gonna be this hard, that’s what the pegs are for” Brad replies “ yea this sucks” so after pondering about what we should do we decided I should take this journey alone. So we parted ways and now a lone drunken wolf on my steel horse I ride( get it lol) I see an ambulance at a gas station I was passing and I peddled up to the ambulancers and asked pointing at the gash in my leg “ is this bad” and the ambulancer said “um yea! Your gunna need around 13 stitches and a technashot” then I replied “ soo I need to go to the hospital huh”? He said “yes” . Back on my steel horse I ride and finally make it to the hospital. And as I was waiting for a room my friend decided to show, you know who, ADHD. A few minutes later a nurse comes along and says my name and she leads us back to a room and by now it’s 3:30–4 a.m and the nurse says “ wait here and the doctor will be in soon”. So after about 5 minutes of waiting my friend came up with an idea. We were sitting on a stool with wheels while we wait lets cruise the hallways! So we’re flying down hallways and we come across a door with a window and through this window we see a refrigerator. So we slowly roll up to the door and look left and right and whipped the door open. We scoot up to the refrigerator and open and to our amazement it was full of styrofoam containers. So we snag one and go flying back to our room on the stool ya know and come to a stop next to the bed. I opened the container of mystery and inside was a turkey sammich with milk and yogurt. I’m not a fan as I say to ADHD and he of course isn’t either. So back on the stool we ride and we find a room with a bunch of white coats. We open the door and yell “WHO LIKE YOGURT”? and the one white coat says “I do” so we wheeled over to him and gave him the yogurt and he says “thank you” and we said “no problem sir” and cruised back to the turkey sammich. As we’re eating a nurse comes in and says “ where did you get that”? and we replied “ in a room with many” and she says “ that’s some nurses lunch” and I said “ do you want it”? Before she turned to walk away huffing and puffing she goes “NO”. So now we’re about halfway through our sammy a security guard comes and says “ I’m sick of babysitting you boy” and I replied “nobody asked you to” and that’s when he said “GET OUTTA HERE” and now walking my steel horse outside leaving with my scotch tape and paper toweled leg I never got the 13 stitches and “technashot”

and now I have a reminder of when my friend got me kicked out of the hospital.

MY STORY

My Story

This is my story

P.s because of having ADHD

I have an awkward sense of humor

and

This story is probably going to be a grammar nazi’s nightmare lol

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Hello everyone I’m glad you stopped in to check out my blog. The reason I started Me And My Friend ADHD is because I know what it’s like to struggle from having mental health stuff. I’m only saying “stuff” because I don’t like using the words “issues” or “problems” to me they sound negative just in case you were wondering. But anyhoo I was diagnosed in 3rd grade with ADHD and in 2010 when I was hit by a car as a pedestrian. Ever since getting hit it seems like one big fuckin nightmare I wish would end. I struggle with ADHD, anxiety, severe depression, PTSD and that’s not including the injuries I have. At 14yrs old my parent’s told me if I want all that skateboard and snowboard shit I’d better get a job and that’s exactly what I did. And now not being able to work or do the things I loved doing, I go stir crazy and with my Friend ADHD and no outlet I have no where to put it. Skateboarding was my life and my only outlet and i always said I’m gunna skate till I die and now look at me! I hate it!. Now i don’t know what to do with myself and I beat myself up for it. I have no pride in myself, no confidence either i honestly just hate the person I am. After being hit i was out of work for 6 months and then I was “cleared” to return to work. I worked another 5 years not knowing the damage I was doing. Then 1 day i ended up hurting my back at work and when I went to see a spine specialist he told me after the accident I was 50% disabled and from working I’m 100% disabled and that I should’ve never gone back to work and been on disability already. The surgery I need there’s a 50% chance I’ll never walk again. And nobody fuckin told me I was that disabled!! All I was told is that I can return to work and that I’m ok to do the things I enjoy. It was all just myth mouth bullshit I mean what do they care it’s not there problem. We’re all just like customers in line at fuckin McDonald’s to them. Because of my ADHD I feel I get taken advantage of because it’s hard sometimes to understand a lot of things and it makes me feel stupid. So now I’m just a master tech with over 20 yrs of experience that’s a liability that nobody wants to hire. And from not working I’ve lost everything I busted my ass for. I had 3 vehicles, $20 thousand in tools and a credit score of 720 ect. I’ve been on my own since 16yrs old and busted my ass to get where I was until the day I was hit. Since then my life has gone to shit and ive been trying to piece my life back together but nothing is working. I keep hitting dead end after dead end. The one thing that pisses me off the most is when people think I’m playing the victim card and that couldn’t be far enough from the truth. To me playing the victim card is when your complaining and not doing a damn thing to change it. I’m willing to do whatever it takes and I’ve tried everything I can think of. I don’t know what it is about me why everything I try blows up in my face, that’s what I don’t get!? What am I doing wrong?!? If I had the answer i’d do it in a heartbeat trust me this isn’t fuckin what I call fun . I feel like a huge fuckin bum and i don’t need hand outs or for someone to do things for me. All I ask for is someone to talk to and maybe help me figure out a direction so I can start being and feeling happy again because I honestly don’t have a fuckin clue. I feel like I’m lost and the last 6 years ive had this cursed rain cloud over me that won’t find some offs to fuck and fuck off. I don’t know why but I thought lawyers and doctors are suppose to have your best interest at heart and boy was I wrong. My chiropractor had a “doctor” come to his office once a week for patients. The first time I met this bum a nurse practitioner she put me on 6 a day-10mg hydros(tabs), 4 a day-.5mg Klonopins, 3 a day- 20mg Adderall, 3 a day-150mg gabapentin, and a 1 antidepressant a day. And all she told me was these would help me be and feel normal. I’ve never taken pills before I didn’t know anything of what they would do. After the accident that’s all I wanted was to be and feel normal. I took a vacation to visit my mom and stepdad which lived on a military base, so i only brought a few pills with so I didn’t have a problem getting on post with them. Come to find out I had no issues at all lol but wasn’t sure because the last I was on post I had a fine I never paid and thought I’d be flagged as soon as I entered. Anyways so I was rationing them and one night I was feeling like absolute shit, well come to find out I was going thru withdrawal and had no clue that’s what it was until I got back home and said something to my neighbor about it. The next time I seen the doctor that put me on all that shit I asked ” is there anyway I can switch so I’m not taking all these pills” she replied ” go see pain management”. So I made an appointment with pain management and the first appointment he tells me to my face that I was lying about my pain, that my mom raised a junky, I’m a pill searching piece of shit and he called the other doctor that prescribed me all those meds and she cut me off that day and if I wanted him to believe me to come back for nerve testing. So I did and come to find out I have severe nerve damage in my knees and my back is so bad the lady doing the test thought her machine was broken. After that the doctor stopped answering my phone calls and wouldn’t let me make appointments and if I showed up he wouldn’t call my name, he basically blew me off because he knew he fucked up.

This is me faking it and sorry its a crappy picture

So now I have no doctor at all I have no way to get the scripts I was on and no clue wtf I should do. So I go to a place called Best Self and they prescribed me suboxene but didn’t help with the kolonipns and I ended up in the hospital for 6 days do to a really bad withdrawal from the benzo’s I was told. I really hate the fact that people can just do whatever the fuck they want because I’m not smart enough to understand. I don’t like feeling stupid and like I said that’s all it does and my family thinks it’s something I can just turn off and its not. I want nothing more than to be the person I was before all the shit. And through all of this I lost friends and alot of family along with everything I worked for and that doesn’t help at all with all the other shit that’s going on. I never in my life wanted to ask for help or rely on others and doing it now just pisses me off because everytime I do it just reminds me I’m neck deep in shit with no way out. All I want is me and to be happy again!

Again thank you for reading, I figured I’d start it off and if you can relate or have a struggle please post in the comments. And please remember Me And My Friend ADHD is a place to help each other from our mental health stuff.